Firstly, happy New Year to everyone, I hope you all had a wonderful Christmas and a great start to the New Year.
With 2017 now gone, it’s time to reflect on the good and bad but don’t dwell – look forward to the future and plan for the present. Randomly picking a New Year’s resolution is not the way to do it.
The reason is simple: you should work on yourself 365 days of the year. You should not just wait until January 1 to make a decision on what you are going to achieve in 2018.
Please take your time and do it right. It’s not about New Year’s resolutions it is about setting goals that are going to make you a better version of yourself.
Below are a few reasons why you should not make the traditional New Year’s resolutions
YOU MAY LOOK AND FEEL RUBBISH
During the festive period we get so many highs when we meet family and friends and eat and drink what we want. But it does come crashing down around January 1.
This is the worst time to decide your New Year’s resolutions because it’s not a true reflection of who you are. Give your body the time it needs to recover.
For me it normally takes two weeks before I start to physically and mentally notice a change in my body after slipping out of my routine.
FIND YOUR WHY
Before you even think about carrying out a new goal ask yourself – why?
Why do you want to lose weight? Why do you want to quit smoking? Why do you want to make more money?
The answers for these questions can be very simple, but are they strong enough? Is your why strong enough to keep you going when times get tough?
We can all sick to our goals when it’s easy but when the first few challenges come your way can you really stick to what you planned to do? Have a strong why and you will bulldoze through to the next challenge.
WRITE IT DOWN
Once you are back to ‘normality’ then take the time to write down your goals. The best thing about this is that you can write them out and reword them as many times as you like before you know it’s the goal you want to achieve.
Once you have done this then write it on something or stick it somewhere you will see it every day.
When writing down your goals use the SMART principle. Be Specific, make sure your goals are Measurable, Attainable, Realistic and you have a Time-frame in which to complete them.
Without any of these five principles you could already be setting yourself up for failure.
DON’T HOLD BACK
If you really want something, go get it. Your end goal is one thing but breaking it down may be the best way to achieve this.
Instead of just looking at 2018 why not write your goals for the next five years. Ask yourself where do you want to be in five or even ten years.
This can be scary and very hard to do but once you know your end goal you can strip it back to where you want to be in six months, one year, two years and so on.
This way you are not holding back on your vision but are still following the SMART principles.
BE ACCOUNTABLE TO SOMEONE
Last year I sat down with my cousin and wrote out our goals. We both had completely different goals but for a start we were able to say why we wanted to achieve our goals and secondly we decided we would both be accountable for helping each other.
If you have someone who you trust and is not afraid to give you a kick up the backside when you need it then call on this person to be your accountability buddy.
You must trust this person and when they give you some feedback you have to take it and deal with it.
Just don’t shrug it off. Choose wisely, don’t pick someone who is going to be nice. Pick an achiever, someone who knows how to push themselves and others in the right direction.
CHANGE – DON’T GIVE UP
If you set your goals and you find you are not reaching them at the pace you set out, then don’t give up.
At the end of the day it’s a piece of paper – you can rewrite it, but make sure you actually rewrite them – just doing it in your head will not have the same effect.
Always go back to your why. Ask yourself as many times as you need to why you are doing this.
Believe me when I say – if your why is strong enough then nothing will stop you.